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Dealing With Your Ex’s Family During The Holidays
During a divorce, you are not only separating from your ex spouse, but in most cases, his or her family as well. A lot of divorced couples don’t quite know how they should interact with their ex’s family during holidays, gatherings for their children, or other events in which these people will probably all be together. Do you send them a gift during the holidays? Do you attend their festive parties along with your children? Would a simple card be a sufficient holiday greeting? Having these questions and many others is natural, but don’t worry. I am here to help you decide on how to deal with your ex spouse’s family during the holiday season.
When it comes to holidays, you might be stressed out over how to approach your ex’s family. You might feel uncomfortable and fear that your ex’s family dislikes you because of the divorce. Alternatively, you might dislike them and the way that they have treated you in the past. However, the holidays can be very pleasant and there is no need to stress out or worry. You should consider your personal situation and what you feel comfortable with. Depending on how long your marriage lasted and how close you were with the family makes all the difference when it comes to the holidays. A simple holiday card cannot hurt at all especially if your children are in it. Your ex in-laws will not be angry at receiving a picture from you of your children and I am sure they will be proud to put that on their refrigerator and show their grandchildren off to anyone that comes into the house.
Make the holidays a special time for your children. I know it might be hard to see eye to eye with your ex on most subjects, but try to focus on what is best for your children, not stressing over your ex and his or her family. Make time for your children to spend time with not only just you and your family, but with your ex and his or her family as well. Make the custody schedule around the holidays fair for both parent involved. If you are invited over your ex’s family’s house to celebrate an occasion, if you feel comfortable enough, try to go. Seeing both parents together can be very good for children of divorce, but only if you and your ex can remain civil throughout the whole party.
Make each and every holiday season special for your children. Do not focus on the negatives, but instead try to be civil with your ex and his or her family. Of course you may still feel bitter and upset about the divorce, but do not ruin your children’s time over it. Be fair and as courteous as you can be when it comes to your ex and his or her family during this time of the year. If you have any questions regarding divorce, or if you would like to speak with an experienced attorney, you may contact my office here.